Are You Sabotaging your Online Dating Success?
If you have been online dating for a while, it’s likely that you have had many online dates and wondering when you are going to meet that one woman of your dreams.
You have your list of what type of person you want to meet. You have the criteria listed. She’s a brunette, has to be between the ages of 35-45, weigh around 135lbs. With a height of 5’6 inches. Has to live within 20 minutes of your place of residence. And on it goes.
You have searched through the online dating sites that you are a member of and you are running out of potential dates, since most of the women that responded to your connections, you’ve already been out with.
Now you are starting to get a bit desperate and frustrated. The girl you are looking for does not appear to exist.
What to do next?
Perhaps you have defined the type of woman that you are willing to go out with too narrowly. By expanding your possible options of the type of woman that you would consider going out with, this would open up many more options.
So, for example, you might only go out with brunettes, consider going out with a blonde as well. You may find yourself to be pleasantly surprised. When you start to open your options up in more areas you increase the odds of finding someone that you might not have initially thought you could be attracted too, yet when you meet her, you are ready to rip her clothes off.
Another example might be that you limit your dating possibilities to women that are only university educated. You narrow down the available pool of women when you do that. Great if you can find a match, but if you can’t then consider perhaps someone with a college education or even a female entrepreneur who may have the smarts without a formal education.
Do you want a woman who is between 35-45? How about increasing the range slightly. This opens up some other factors such as does she have younger kids or not from a previous relationship and is that something you are ok with?
A lot of 50+ guys seem to want to date women between 35-45. What about the possibility of being entirely compatible with someone closer to your age? You certainly will have some similar life experiences as well as more similar ideas about where you might be at this stage of life. Consider it just as a possibility and try it out.
You still have to get to know someone by dating them for a while; your odds are simply going to be much better to find that one particular woman if you expand your options. This gives you access to a greater pool of women online, and a high possibility that the one gem that you are looking for is amongst that group.
Ultimately you want to find that one person to build a relationship with. While you may have to date many women to find that person, you will find the extra effort is well worth it.
To increase your success in finding that one great lady, read the book, How to Attract a Great Woman: A Practical Guide for Guys getting back in the dating gameby Ray Khan