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Online dating driving you crazy?

Online dating can be like playing the lottery.

Sometimes you win, and sometimes you don’t.

Ask yourself a question.

How many bad dates have you had via online dating?

You know how it goes: You see someone you like online, and set up a coffee, lets meet for drinks
or lunch get together.

You arrive at the venue on time.  You are waiting to meet this person, then they show up, and
you do a double take when you see the woman you are about to meet.

She does not look anything like the picture that she posted in her online profile.

The picture that she has posted might have been taken a few years ago, and now she appears to be
somewhat heavier, perhaps older looking as well  and you feel somewhat deceived and pissed off about this.

Now, when this first happened to me and I was new to online dating  I was  somewhat annoyed, but carried through with the date
anyway, because I wanted to be a “nice guy”.

What I was really  thinking, that if she was willing to not be truthful and misrepresent herself to me initially,
then what other BS and lies might she tell me.

“What the hell was she thinking?” I would quietly tell myself.

Perhaps she was thinking, that once I met her and discovered what an amazing person she was, that
I would overlook the fact that she had essentially lied to me.

When this happened a few times, I became less tolerant and would end the date
relatively quickly.

One of the big mistakes I made,  was actually making a dinner date with someone,
because they sounded good on the phone.

Then being  stuck with her for a much longer time period and  praying for dinner to end
so I could get the hell out of there.

Waste of my time and money.

I also did not like confrontation.

What I should have done, is tell her that I do not appreciate my time being wasted, and turned
around and walked out on her.

After a while, I realized that there some women were only interested in one thing: Getting some free drinks,
lunch, or a dinner at my expense. It sure cut down on their personal expenses.

And whose fault is that?

Mine of course, because I did not take the necessary steps to qualify that person to make sure that we
were at least well suited to even go out together in the first place.

Nope, desperate as I was, I just took the first woman that came along ,

Feeling insecure  about myself, and  my  scarcity mentality towards being
able to get a women did not help either.

Yes,  I know it sounds pretty pathetic.

And it was.

Mind you, I was always a gentleman; but rarely got second dates with the same woman.

Does any of this sound familiar?

There are many men who are unfortunately making the same mistake, and some that are
not learning from it.

If that is you, don’t you think it is time for a change?

You deserve better, and you know it.

Till next time.

Ray Khan

PS Be sure to check out my FREE guide on how you can started dating again, and avoid
some of the dumb mistakes I made.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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